Single & Satisfied - Sally Gibbs

Okay girls, I’m going to be real. Who here, can honestly say they have never fantasised about their wedding day growing up? I bet there are very few who have not. The Pinterest board is alive and overflowing with elegant hairstyle ideas, rustic bouquet arrangements, cute engagement stories and show-stopping dress designs. With Disney and romantic comedy as our guide, we wholeheartedly believe that we are deserving of, and should be eagerly awaiting a Prince Charming to sweep us off our feet. From a young age we play chasey with boys in the yard, which later develops into our week to week crushes on the cute high school boys who made us laugh that one time, or paid us the courtesy of a fleeting moment of extra attention.

None of these things are bad necessarily. In fact, God created us to be in relationship with one another, just as Adam and Eve were in the garden, so it makes sense that we desire to find a man to build connection with and do life alongside.

The key thing to remember however, amidst all the daydreaming and Facebook stalking (don’t deny it), is that finding a man will not complete, fulfil, or satisfy you. Being “single” is not a label of shame that we wear until we can upgrade to “taken” and finally, step in to all that God has for us. It’s not the missing piece in your life or a problem to be embarrassed about. Let’s get something straight – your single years are in fact, a GIFT! You are not missing out on anything that cannot wait, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

If this is your current season, what a time to be alive! Seriously! Your mind, heart, body, everything, can be consumed with your first love – Jesus! Your attention isn’t divided and you don’t need to consider anyone, except yourself when deciding how to serve Him. Any married woman and mother would look at you and think wistfully, “wow, I remember when it was just me and God…” Looking back, I laugh at the hours I wasted in my teenage years being distracted by crushes because as it turns out, I didn’t end up meeting my now-husband, until I was in my 20’s!

Grab hold of this window in your life to focus on yourself. Study the word like it’s going out of fashion and allow His truths, to fill your heart. Worship Jesus with all your heart and encounter His presence and His love, allowing Him to mould and shape you into the woman He has called you to be. I seized my season by studying, attending Bible college, travelling, making new friends, making mistakes and learning from them, and on top of all of this, I realised that the only man I needed to help me achieve it all, was Jesus. He yearns to have you all to Himself, for now, and He does not forget the desires of your heart.

Write out your dreams and goals and make a clear plan to reach them. Dream big! Build on your skills, work on your giftings, and do things that make you feel alive. Create memories and let God lead your life!

Written by Sally Gibbs

Sally is married to Jonny Gibbs and is on team at Kingdomcity in Perth.