God Will Never Short-Change You!

12 January 2019 will always be marked as a special and significant day in my life as that was the day I finally got married to a wonderful man at the age of 46.

Many single women are inspired and filled with hope as they hear my testimony because I waited a long time for my promise.

I would like to share my story to encourage you to wait on God for His best and not give up or settle for less.

I met my husband in One City, Subang Campus in November 2017. We started dating in July 2018 and three months later, he proposed and another three months later, we got married. For someone who had waited a long time, I was amazed at how fast God worked when His appointed time had arrived. I love the verse in Habakkuk...

“For the vision is yet for an appointed time and it hastens to the end (fulfillment), it will not deceive or disappoint. Though it tarry, wait (earnestly) for it, because it will surely come, it will not be behindhand on its appointed day.” Habakkuk 2:3 (AMP)

“If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will NOT be overdue a single day!” Habakkuk 2:3 (TLB)

You may ask, how did I know he was the one? We both felt an instant attraction and connection the moment we first met which had been one of my prayers. I felt a stirring in my heart and remember asking God what this meant and left it in God’s Hands. At that point in time, he was getting out of a bad relationship and was praying for clarity and asking God to lead him to his life partner. Soon after, he started to pursue me which led to our courtship and love story. During the time of courtship, I prayed and asked God for specific signs and confirmations. He gave me a few but the biggest one was - I asked God to reveal to me that he was the one through a godly person who had no idea of what was going on in my world. A week later, Andy from church sends me a random text message “Ruby, while at Kopitiam during our last meeting, I forgot to let you know that the Lord has and is bringing a future partner to you”. That was the final confirmation I needed from God!

The long wait was never easy. My greatest fear was I will never get married and what will become of me. There were many lonely nights drenched with tears, so many questions filled my mind as I just could not understand God’s plan. I was angry with God as I was serving Him faithfully and lived my life according to His Word and it seemed like He had forgotten and forsaken me. Some nights, I would suddenly wake up with panic attacks, my heart racing. The enemy’s lies were very real and wore me down – you will never get married, you are too old, all the good guys are taken, your God has forsaken you, do you still want to serve HIM, you might as well give up … What a liar! I was filled with despair and found myself sinking into depression. I was actively serving in church and seemed very strong on the outside but inside I was angry, confused and miserable. I was really tired of being bullied by the enemy. Things began to change when I started to apply some valuable principles I learned at the Beautiful Single Woman course at Kingdomcity.

My worth, value and purpose comes from God and not my husband. God alone can fulfill and complete me and make me whole, not my husband.

As long as I’m waiting for my future husband to make me happy and fulfill me, then I’m not ready to be married. So I started to pursue God with all my heart, serving Him with passion and purpose, started ministering to other women, encouraging them not to give up while waiting for my own miracle, having fun with my friends and living my life to the fullest.

Another principle I learned was to stand on God’s promises.

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit”. Proverbs 18:21 (NIV)

Every night, I would declare aloud “Lord, I know that You are for me and not against me. I thank you for your plans for me are good and not for evil, to prosper me and not to harm me. Those who place their hope in the Lord shall not be put to shame…”

I would decree quite specifically what I wanted to see happen in my life. I would prophesy into my future according to God’s Word. Every time I did that, I felt the atmosphere in my room change. I felt the pleasure of God.

Without faith, it is impossible to please God. Hebrews 11:6 (NIV)

I started operating in the power and authority God has given me. My faith started to grow and the enemy stopped harassing me as I attacked him with the Word! I began to feel free, whole, fulfilled and happy and before I knew it, the right man was standing next to me.

While we were courting, my husband shared how he used to watch me in church which I was oblivious to. He was impressed by how I got lost in worship, how I served God passionately, how I loved people and prayed for them. And he prayed silently ‘Lord, will you give me this woman as my wife’. So ladies, continue to love God with all your heart and He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4). You never know who is watching. Just maybe it’s your future husband!

Looking back, I realise how God had been working in my life behind the scene all along. Just as the song goes, I can testify and say Not for a minute, was I forsaken! And all the while, he was shaping and molding me into the beautiful woman He created me to be. If only I had known this and trusted Him more, I would have worried less, relaxed more and enjoyed the journey of waiting...

Isaiah 61:7 says,

‘Instead of your former shame, you shall have a twofold recompense…therefore in their land, they shall possess double’ - Isaiah 61:7 (AMP).

My spiritual mentor often encouraged me by saying ‘Ruby, God will never short-change you’. How true! There is a certain reward in waiting. In my limited mind, I was thinking that I probably had to settle for less as all the good guys were taken – that is a lie of the enemy! Instead, God blew my mind by blessing me with a husband who is a great catch – he is good-looking, physically fit plus he is six years younger than me AND he has all the qualities I was praying for. Indeed, I am now enjoying a double portion of His blessing.

So to all the single ladies out there, have you have been serving God faithfully day after day yet waiting a long time for your promise? Are you feeling lonely, forgotten and forsaken by God? Does your situation seem hopeless? Are you tired of waiting and on the verge of giving up?

I would like to encourage you to press in, stand strong and not give up. Know that our God is absolutely faithful, He will not leave you nor forsake you. He is a way maker, miracle worker, and promise keeper. He will never short-change you but has the best waiting for you in the near future!

By Cassilda Ruby Thompson

Cassilda Ruby Thompson is married and lives in Kuala Lumpur, she is a faithful carrier at Kingdomcity.